TEMPERATURE CHECK

Where are things at right now? What's the anger & emotional heat level? What issues are you dealing with, and what is most important? How is your health & well-being? Are their legal issues beyond the divorce?

A private one-on-one chance to speak privately with someone who has been through it can help you get organized with a plan to follow.

FINDING STRENGTH

Going through a divorce can be crushing, especially with your kids.  People you both know as a couple may distance themselves from you.  In-laws & family can add to the pressures and sometimes just getting out of bed to face this new upside-down world can be overwhelming.

Discover techniques for empowering your inner strength and staying present.

PERSPECTIVE

The anguish & emotional intensity of a divorce can distort our views, lead us toward unhealthy choices, and adversely affect our decision making.

Learn how to see through the noise and make good choices on what matters for you and your kids.

TALKING TO YOUR KIDS

How's the communication with your kids? Are they closed off and responding with "fine's" and "yes" or "no's"?  Is it awkward finding things to talk about when you're alone with them?

Practicing listening skills & tips on how to get them to open up will make a difference.

SUPPORTING YOUR KIDS

When you are communicating with your kids, how do you figure out what's best for them?  Do you leave them alone, or do you stay close? Do you tell them what to do or encourage them to make their own choices.

Understand the subtleties of knowing what your kids need for support and how gender differences can be an influence.

ENGAGING YOUR KIDS

Do you clearly see what they should be doing, but after you tell them, they don't do it, or they do something else? Do they run to mom and get her to co-sign what they want to do?

Learn how to stop telling them what to do and draw them in by encouraging them as a solid & loving father.

BEING PRESENT

Are your kid conversations stilted or about tomorrow when "this is all over?"Is how it "used to be" the theme of your time together?

Break out of being avoidant and learn how to be present, so your children have a role-model who behaves like an adult and a parent.

MAKE IT LAST

Do you have a great visit but it's back to square one for the next one? Is it uncomfortable for you to be doing things differently? Is it for them?

Maintaining your relationships with what you've learned is a part of the process.  Keep it going at this point and into the future; you've earned it!